What is the phenomenon?

The quote below is from a current book I have been slowly reading, because each page needs to be absorbed, and everytime I re-read a section another aha moment happens.

The book is Medicine Words by Dianne M Connelly, PHD.; and the quote: “Our Unnecessary Suffering is in our Conclusions”

For me at this moment all the unnecessary suffering, is all me hurting my own feelings, over and over again. I stop things before they ever get a chance to start. Specially when it comes to meeting new people, and I’m going to challenge myself to chat, be curious, it’s okay, and I might be surprised, hmmm…… by not assuming all the time. The whole point to traveling, seeing the US, and the world for me is connection. Connection to myself, different cultures, lifestyles, food, art, healing modalities, animals, the earth, photography, there’s so much! I feel like my world just got a lot bigger and I’m excited to play around and see what happens!

Update 6/25/2025: This selfie was taken in Lagos, Portugal June 12, 2023 during my NLP training.