If you find yourself in a toxic relationship whether it’s, a friend, partner, or family member, in my experience you cannot heal where you got sick. That’s the unfortunate part, to choose yourself, sometimes means walking away.

In society today, it’s been drilled into our heads, we must stick by family. What if staying, sticking by that partner, family of friend is making you mentally or physically sick? What then?

When God asked me to leave everyone I have ever known behind, to surrender all situations up to him, I didn’t understand why at the time? As an empath, I naturally attract narcissists, I was also raised in a narcissists household, so it was familiar, comfortable. So naturally I married a narcissists and stayed with him for 20 years, that ended in divorce.

Only to find the same thing in my next relationship. I had to leave it all behind so I could see, understand, learn, and get clarity. How was I going to get healthy when every which way I turned was more of the same? I wasn’t going to, and God knew that.

Choosing myself, was the most important move. I thought it was selfish, why? Why would choosing to get healthy be selfish? Choosing to put a stop to the toxic unhealthy patterns that felt normal, is not selfish!

I am grateful that God pulled me from all the toxic people that were around me. I wouldn’t be the healthy, vibrant, mentally stable person I am today. You cannot get healthy where you got sick, I am grateful I have gained this wisdom, and have made peace with it, because I have peace, that’s priceless!